...My kitten wouldn't attack anything with tassels, my boyfriend wouldn't insist on leaving his clothes, shoes and various items of crockery on my white couch, and I would have had the foresight to do some serious Scotchguarding before I let either of those two grubby little demons near said vulnerable couch.
Oh, and in an ideal world, my living room would look like this...
Oh, and in an ideal world, my living room would look like this...
In reality, I only have that couch, complete with antique white couch cover...what was I thinking?! I may have bought it a few months prior to falling in love with my little grey kitten, but still, I should have known better. The only person I know who's messier than I am is Mr. Unreliable. Worse still is that even though I'm messy, I compensate by going into complete cleaning overdrive whenever we have guests...Mr. Unreliable however, couldn't care less.
He always rolls his eyes and exclaims wearily "Oh why bother cleaning, it's just so-and-so!" He has applied this sound slice of logic to just about everyone, including my mother, and it wouldn't surprise me if he extended it to prime ministers, presidents and/or queens, were they ever to be in the neighbourhood.
His priorities are elsewhere...and I'm almost a little envious that he can be so blasé about the whole deal. The cynic in me says that he doesn't need to worry, because hey, who's going to judge him for having a messy house? He's a guy!
One part of me tells me this is ridiculous, but the other part keeps playing over the many times various family and friends ask ME why Mr. Unreliable is so darn skinny, and why I haven't been feeding him well.
Oh I'm sorry, I wasn't aware we'd travelled back in time and landed in 1952! Let me just get my apron and my hot rollers! Did you park the Delorean out front?
HE CAN FEED HIMSELF! He's a grown man, he lived out of home long before I came along, let him cook for himself. Or here's a crazy idea, let him cook for ME!
But I digress. Here's the crux of it. I feel like I will be judged if our home isn't perfectly spotless. I feel as though it will reflect poorly on me, and nobody else.
I thought that these feelings might just be down to an age old battle of designers cohabiting with non-designers, but I suspect this is a little larger, and I'm quite sure I'm not alone...am I?
He always rolls his eyes and exclaims wearily "Oh why bother cleaning, it's just so-and-so!" He has applied this sound slice of logic to just about everyone, including my mother, and it wouldn't surprise me if he extended it to prime ministers, presidents and/or queens, were they ever to be in the neighbourhood.
His priorities are elsewhere...and I'm almost a little envious that he can be so blasé about the whole deal. The cynic in me says that he doesn't need to worry, because hey, who's going to judge him for having a messy house? He's a guy!
One part of me tells me this is ridiculous, but the other part keeps playing over the many times various family and friends ask ME why Mr. Unreliable is so darn skinny, and why I haven't been feeding him well.
Oh I'm sorry, I wasn't aware we'd travelled back in time and landed in 1952! Let me just get my apron and my hot rollers! Did you park the Delorean out front?
HE CAN FEED HIMSELF! He's a grown man, he lived out of home long before I came along, let him cook for himself. Or here's a crazy idea, let him cook for ME!
But I digress. Here's the crux of it. I feel like I will be judged if our home isn't perfectly spotless. I feel as though it will reflect poorly on me, and nobody else.
I thought that these feelings might just be down to an age old battle of designers cohabiting with non-designers, but I suspect this is a little larger, and I'm quite sure I'm not alone...am I?
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MsUnreliable 58p · 780 weeks ago
Mr. Unreliable is a musician, so his version of "functional" is leaving out all his instruments, pedals, various electronic devices and all the cords and plugs that go with them...because it's functional. It doesn't matter to him that he only uses them once every 3 months, but it certainly does to me!
theshinyfilthyorder 1p · 781 weeks ago
I kid, but I completely understand. Between my schizo roommate, her equally psychotic mutt, and my very own Mr. Unreliable, I fear I am quickly turning into my mother. [shudder] I never dreamed I would get excited about new CLEANING supplies.
MsUnreliable 58p · 780 weeks ago
And yes, I too get excited about cleaning products. I'm the most non-domestic person you'll ever meet, but you should have seen me clapping with glee when I first tried out my stainless steel wipes. The beginning of the end!
Sophie · 780 weeks ago
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@_violetfemme · 780 weeks ago
so try and experiment... want him to move his clothes off the floor... shove them into a pile and put them in his way.. better yet... drop the pile on top of him when he's in the middle of something ;)
when i vacuumed the bedroom yesterday, i was going to vacuum his side... if it weren’t for all the clothes strewn all over the floor... so i left the vacuum at the foot of the bed, so at night, if he had to go to the bathroom... he'd trip... and he did ;) (i did warn him i put it there so he can do his side of the room so he couldn’t whinge if he happened to fall over it ;))
MsUnreliable 58p · 780 weeks ago
Keep in mind, Mr. U said he'd list a whole pile of stuff on eBay over 6 months ago. I even photographed everything, put it all out in the living room ready for pickup. He insisted HE had to be the one to list it on eBay, and 6 months later he's only listed 1 item. He had to step around the piles of crap to get to the bathroom for months, and it it still didn't kick him into action.
I give up!
Carly · 780 weeks ago
Thank you for the message of support following the awful incident I had in a store yesterday. The kind words from friends and strangers was amazing.
The woman who feared that whatever was on my face would ruin her clothes was small minded, discriminatory and rude. But she has also managed to remind me that there are so many people in this world that are compassionate and open minded, and in support of the challenges I have with my chronic illness.
I hope that my blog, and your support, can make people think twice about the prejudices they may have towards people with chronic illnesses and disabilities, and also make them think twice about opening their mouth and saying something hurtful.
Sorry to hear about your experience in that shop when you were younger. I don't think sales assistants realise the power of one bad shopping experience for a customer.
I feel pretty crappy today, it's hard to be resilient all the time, but I know that I will feel better soon.
Thank you again, you really brightened my day.
Carly
MsUnreliable 58p · 780 weeks ago
xx Kit
Ash · 780 weeks ago
Anyway, I'm the same way... I become CRAZY like...OCD about cleaning once I know I'll have guests. Hey... it's not bad. At least we get things done. Otherwise, I'd never find time to clean. Lol
MsUnreliable 58p · 780 weeks ago
But yes, I will admit that last-minute guest-induced OCD cleaning does come in handy, it would just be nice to have someone to help me out!